Bullying, part 3

When we take a look at the average bully, it is very clear that they are people who lack self confidence and self control. So, they take their anger and frustrations out on other people. This not only happens to kids in school, but also in relationships, work, sports and pretty much everywhere. The main reason it happens is because these individuals lack self control. Everybody has bad days or goes through bad stretches in life. But those who have self control are able to channel their anger and frustrations. Maybe you are reading this and thinking,"I'm angry and I'm not releasing my frustration on a healthy activity (like martial arts), I'm taking it out on my family, or friends, or co-workers. If that's the case, you need to be talking to me about getting into (or back into) our program!

The main reason I initially started in martial arts is because I have a bad temper and I was afraid that I would eventually hurt someone or get hurt seriously. I also remember that back in grade school, I was a bully to a few kids and now I deeply regret that. Training in the arts has taught me how to develop and use my self control. I have seen many of my students gain a huge amount of self control and confidence from their training as well. And that is one of the main key ways to avoid being bullied...developing a high level of self confidence. I feel this is done by INDIVIDUAL accomplishments. Every time a student goes through a belt test, there should be a transformation, there should be an improvement in there confidence. By the time they get to Black Belt, they will have the confidence, self control and skills to deal with bullies.

For myself, earning my black belt was a life changing experience. After that, I KNEW I could do anything I wanted. With the skills I had learned, I KNEW that I could defend myself. I soon noticed that I was better able to deal with confrontations. I didn't get nervous, loud, nothing...just a cool and calm approach to resolving any situation. That ability is what I am dedicated to giving to our students .

In my next post, I'll wrap this up. Again, feel free to post your thoughts or questions on this subject.

SUN!

Bully Prevention (continued)

Over the years, the number one reason parents enrolled their kids in our program was because their kids were being picked on or beat up in school, or they didn't want them to be picked on or beat up. Yes, this goes on all the time, even in our nice little central Wisconsin schools. (no offense to our schools or those who work there, they have their hands full) So what do we do?
First. we do everything we can to see that it stops, second and most importantly, we make sure that if our children are ever faced with a situation they will know how to react!
My next post will discuss who the bullies are, and what makes them tick.

The Effects of being Bullied

As parents, teachers and Instructors to our children, it is so important to be knowledgable about the effects of being bullied and what it can cause later in life. The biggest one is lack of confidence. Confidence is one of the most important character traits that a person needs to possess to be successful in the real world. (That is why so much emphasis is placed on that aspect in our classes.) It is of the utmost importance to not let any bullying get out of control. Other effects such as depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts can all be linked to being bullied.
Anyone have any thoughts, storys or insight related to this subject? Please share.

SUN

PaSaRyu Ee Dan

A couple of people here have requested PaSaRyu Ee Dan.

So, here it is...http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jh-rYZzo49M

SUN!

PaSaRyu Jahng Kwon Cong Keeock

PasaRyu Jahng Kwon Cong Keeock is up at:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d1weQKCZ3IU

The Summer Doldrums

The Blog Page is looking great!

Summer will be drawing to a close soon (though it topped 100 degrees today).

I'm looking forward to some cooler weather so my outside form training can recommence.

Nevertheless, I filmed the two-person form PaSaRyu Jahng Kwon Cong Keeock today and it is uploading to you tube as I type. I'll post the link when completed

SUN!

Change in Class schedule

I announced in classes tonite that we will be making some adjustments to our class schedule effective September 1st, 2010. I have discussed this with our active Instructors and everyone is all for it. I am pleased to announce we will now be offering 12 specific Hapkido classes per month in addition to 16 PSR classes.
We also will be adding 4 Black Belt only classes per month. Also, we are going to form a Demo team. The demo team will have its own class 4 times per month. And finally, we will be adding a few "specialty" classes per month.
I will make details about the new schedule available to everybody ASAP.
I have a few other things in the works, but I'll hold off on details for now.
If anyone has any questions, don't hesitate to talk to me about it.

SUN!

Great Abilities come from Great Effort

I gave a talk in todays little kids class about how most things are not much fun until you get good at them. Games, school subjects, martial arts techniques, etc. They all seemed to get the idea....dedicate yourself to study and practice and eventually things that once were difficult will be fun and enjoyable.
This made me think about myself and the things I need to do (business wise) but dislike doing. I realize that the only reason I dislike them is because I'm not good at them, and the only reason I'm not good at them is because I have not dedicated myself to getting good at them. I believe it's as simple as that.